{"id":11686,"date":"2021-05-18T15:30:54","date_gmt":"2021-05-18T19:30:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.indianz.com\/News\/?p=11686"},"modified":"2021-05-18T15:30:54","modified_gmt":"2021-05-18T19:30:54","slug":"stronghearts-native-helpline-there-is-no-excuse-for-sexual-violence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/indianz.com\/News\/2021\/05\/18\/stronghearts-native-helpline-there-is-no-excuse-for-sexual-violence\/","title":{"rendered":"StrongHearts Native Helpline: There is no excuse for sexual violence"},"content":{"rendered":"<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"2000\" height=\"1333\" data-attachment-id=\"11689\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/indianz.com\/News\/2021\/05\/18\/stronghearts-native-helpline-there-is-no-excuse-for-sexual-violence\/strongheartsnativehelpline-9\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/indianz.com\/News\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/18\/strongheartsnativehelpline.jpg\" data-orig-size=\"2000,1333\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"strongheartsnativehelpline\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"&lt;p&gt;Photo courtesy StrongHearts Native Helpline&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/indianz.com\/News\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/18\/strongheartsnativehelpline-1024x682.jpg\" src=\"https:\/\/indianz.com\/News\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/18\/strongheartsnativehelpline.jpg\" alt=\"strongheartsnativehelpline\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-11689\" \/><figcaption class=\"figure-caption\">Photo courtesy StrongHearts Native Helpline<\/figcaption>\r\n<div class=\"h3-responsive font-weight-bold\">6 Common Tactics of Teen Dating Sexual Coercion<\/div>\r\n<div class=\"date\">Tuesday, May 18, 2021<\/div>\r\n<div class=\"byline\">By StrongHearts Native Helpline<\/div>\r\n<div class=\"source-website\"><A \r\nhref=\"https:\/\/www.strongheartshelpline.org\/\">strongheartshelpline.org<\/A><\/div>\r\n<p><\/p>\r\nSexual violence within teen dating relationships is very real. Oftentimes teens are made to feel as if sexual contact is \u201cno big deal\u201d or is \u201ca part of being in a relationship\/dating\u201d by their perpetrators. This couldn&#8217;t be farther from the truth.<p><\/p>\r\nAccording to the NSVRC report, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.nsvrc.org\/sites\/default\/files\/publications\/2018-12\/Serving%20Teen%20Survivors%20A%20Manual%20for%20Advocates.pdf\">Serving Teen Survivors: A Manual for Advocates<\/a>, youths who experience sexual violence are most likely to have been abused by a peer or someone they know.\r\nYour teen years are a time for figuring out who you are and what you enjoy, including your sexuality. Experimentation is common, sexual violence is not. <a href=\"https:\/\/strongheartshelpline.org\/abuse\/what-is-consent\">Sex is not sex without consent<\/a>.<p><\/p>Sexual violence is defined as any type of sexual activity or contact that you do not consent to.<p><\/p>\r\n<strong>You may hear or encounter the following<\/strong>:\r\n<p><\/p>\r\n<strong>\u201cBut we have to have sex, we are dating aren&#8217;t we?\u201d<\/strong><br>\r\nBeing pressured or coerced to give or receive any type of sexual act is not a part of the <a href=\"https:\/\/strongheartshelpline.org\/abuse\/healthy-relationship-bill-of-rights\">healthy relationship bill of rights<\/a>. You have the right to personal sovereignty. <a href=\"https:\/\/strongheartshelpline.org\/abuse\/6-common-tactics-of-sexual-coercion\">You have the right to deny or accept any type of sexual activity<\/a>.\r\n<p><\/p>\r\n<strong>\u201cYou snagged me last time, why is it different now?\u201d<\/strong><BR>\r\nYou have the right to say \u201cno\u201d at any time, for any reason. Sex without consent is rape. It doesn&#8217;t matter if you said \u201cyes\u201d before, you are saying \u201cno\u201d now. PERIOD.\r\n<p><\/p>\r\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-width=\"500\" data-dnt=\"true\"><p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">For those affected by domestic violence, safety is of top priority. Have you considered the safety issues with social media?<br><br>Read more safety tips here: <a href=\"https:\/\/t.co\/bH4y30Apgn\">https:\/\/t.co\/bH4y30Apgn<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/DV?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\">#DV<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/Native?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\">#Native<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/AlaskaNative?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\">#AlaskaNative<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/Helpishere?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\">#Helpishere<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/t.co\/3TZz7q9n3I\">pic.twitter.com\/3TZz7q9n3I<\/a><\/p>&mdash; strongheartsdv (@strongheartsdv) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/strongheartsdv\/status\/1394654490612150275?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\">May 18, 2021<\/a><\/blockquote><script async src=\"https:\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script>\r\n<p><\/p>\r\n<strong>\u201cBut condoms don&#8217;t feel right.\u201d<\/strong><br>\r\nPressuring you to have sex without protection is sexual violence. You have the right to safe sex and the autonomy to control your reproductive rights. Another tactic of reproductive abuse can be coercing you to take or not take your birth control, hiding or breaking your birth control or coercing you to try for an unwanted pregnancy.\r\n<p><\/p>\r\n<strong>All of the guys are grabbing girls at school, and everyone thinks it\u2019s funny<\/strong><br>\r\nSometimes people can get caught up in a fad or a trend that crosses boundaries. Even if other people don&#8217;t see the problem with that, finding it funny or \u201ccute\u201d doesn&#8217;t mean it\u2019s okay. Touching another person without consent is sexual harassment. As <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=7TYQSLfXJCw&#038;list=PLvLfi7yZ2zQFDrw_CPSK--KGt-Rq_O3qs&#038;index=77\">Ask Auntie says<\/a> \u201cthis is not okay, and it is disgusting repulsive behavior.\u201d She suggests going to your school counselor or administration and explain the situation and why it is not okay. \r\n<p><\/p>\r\n<strong>Giving you alcohol or drugs<\/strong><br>\r\nTrying to lower your inhibitions by giving you alcohol or drugs is a common tactic for those who sexually assault others. Slipping something into your drink without your knowledge is a very scary reality that happens more often than it should. Stay safe, watch your drinks and stay with friends at parties. \r\n<p><\/p>\r\n<strong>New friend request\/Unknown friends on social media<\/strong><br>\r\nOnline dating is the new norm. Unfortunately, there are also predators online looking for their next victim. They can create fake accounts or use charming tactics to get you comfortable with them. Some predators use social media as a way to send or ask for sexual pictures. This is a <a href=\"https:\/\/m.kidshealth.org\/AllChildrens\/en\/teens\/harassment.html\">form of sexual harassment<\/a>. Predators may also invite you to meet up then use the opportunity to sexually assault you. Stay safe when online dating, and always look out for <a href=\"https:\/\/strongheartshelpline.org\/abuse\/online-dating\">online dating red flags<\/a>.\r\n<p><\/p><div class=\"mt-1 mb-1\"><ins class=\"adsbygoogle\" style=\"display:block; text-align:center;\" data-ad-layout=\"in-article\" data-ad-format=\"fluid\" data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-8411603009680747\" data-ad-slot=\"6394965691\"><\/ins><script>(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});<\/script><\/div><P><\/P>\r\nThere is no excuse for sexual violence. If you or a <a href=\"https:\/\/strongheartshelpline.org\/abuse\/my-loved-one-was-sexually-assaulted\">loved one has experienced sexual violence<\/a>, you have options. There are steps you can take toward reclaiming your personal sovereignty. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wernative.org\/about-us\">WeRNative<\/a> is a great resource for youth looking for answers from peers. Find stories and tips about <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=rH2vEYPNLkY\">sexual health<\/a>, ask Auntie Amanda or Uncle Paige your questions or tune into other Native youth.\r\n<p><\/p>\r\nIf you are experiencing sexual violence, you can reach out to a trustworthy teacher, auntie, uncle or coach. If you don\u2019t have a trustworthy network, StrongHearts Native Helpline is here to help. StrongHearts advocates will listen without judgment and support all victims regardless of age, gender, sexual orientation or relationship status. Please know that sexual violence is never your fault.\r\n<p><\/p>\r\nWe understand that sometimes a <a href=\"https:\/\/strongheartshelpline.org\/get-help#CallorChatOnline\">phone call can be overwhelming<\/a>, so our advocates are available 24\/7\/365 via text, call and chat. Text 1-844-7NATIVE or start a chat on our website at strongheartshelpline.org to connect with one of our diverse Native-centered advocates.\r\n<p><\/p>\r\nYour body. Your sovereignty. Your decision. You never owe anyone sex.\r\n<P><\/P><HR><EM>It is the work of StrongHearts to restore power to Native Americans impacted by domestic and dating violence by providing a system of safety, sovereignty and support with a vision to return to our traditional lifeways where our relatives are safe, violence is eradicated and sacredness is restored.\r\n<p><\/p>\r\nTo explore your options for safety and healing, visit <a href=https:\/\/www.strongheartshelpline.org\/>strongheartshelpline.org<\/a> online for one-on-one chat advocacy or call 1-844-7NATIVE (1-844-762-8483) advocates are available daily 7 a.m. to 10 p.m. CST. As a collaboration with the <a href=https:\/\/www.thehotline.org\/>National Domestic Violence Hotline<\/a> (The Hotline) and the <a hrf=https:\/\/www.niwrc.org\/>National Indigenous Women\u2019s Resource Center<\/a>, callers reaching out after hours may connect with The Hotline by choosing option one.<\/em><HR> \r\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Your body. 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